Jack Butler
Jack Butler

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You're human, you're likely to experience fear, even if you've done a decent amount of meditation or inner work. . So what would it take to be with that fear, rather than avoiding, suppressing, or what I can do if I am not mindful, displacing it into action? . Some people say 'there's love or fear, that's it'. There's something powerful in that idea. But mostly, I sense people experience it as an idea, not a lived experience. . More powerful may be to notice your ACTUAL experience - which will likely include all sorts of things...anger, shame, resignation, rejection, disappointment, etc. You'll probably become more present if you can notice and be with your actual experience, rather than tell yourself you should return to love. . Anyways, don't take it from me, just try it if you're drawn and see what your own experience is. Love, Jack
Hey everyone, I just released a different kind of video on youtube that I would love you to check out. Link in bio. . It's about what to do if you're feeling lost or without purpose. As someone who's gone through a lot of transition and identity loss, I know how hard this territory can be. . So my hope is that it might provide some support and comfort to any of you who are having a hard time right now. . Link in bio. . Love, Jack
I've heard this one a lot from clients during my coaching career - "I just can't wait to start my business, now's the time". . But it's all mind-driven - it's not being sourced from a deeper impulse. Life isn't calling you to start your business, your mind is, your inner critic is, your negative self-comparison is. . So slow down, really slow down, and without any expectations about what the season is, try and tune in. . When it's winter, it doesn't matter what your expectations are, it's still winter! . So too, internally. You'll really struggle if you can't tune into what season it really is. . Wishing you well in your discernment, love, Jack
This has been a hard one for me...I love maps! Both literally, like I pored over them as a kid and mental maps, models, frameworks. And yet...experience can be so much richer than a map. And there are some things that no matter how much someone gives me a map, I just have to go taste, experience, be with them myself. Are there any places that your maps are holding you back? Need updating? Or throwing out? What do you get intellectually but don't fully own, embody, know?
It's your path...it's unique...and there are things that life is ongoingly arranging for you to learn and curating experiences for you to do just that. Part of trusting life deeply is knowing this. That you have your own divine unique path - it's not written, it's unfolding, your participation is required, but you can't outsource it. Your guidance is YOUR guidance. Without it, you could have the best mentors and teachers in the world, and still be completely LOST.
A decade ago, I remember being sat in an amazingly beautiful hotel in Surrey just outside London with a work colleague and him having a breakthrough moment in a conversation realizing that it's all just perspectives, heuristics, ways of looking at things, and none of them is the thing itself. It took me longer to really grok (get in Britspeak!) the importance of that. It's both a profound freedom to experience multiple perspectives but it will also undermine perspectives you have taken to be true. Like your liberal perspective which may actually miss the importance of other political perspectives. Yes, including those annoying conservative people's ones! Together, our perspectives can actually get us closer to seeing more of what's going on, rather than needing to find the one 'right' perspective. Well, that might just be my perspective... :)
When I left my life in England, mostly the business I founded and had built for 7 years and it turns out had some identity invested in! (ahem), I felt I like I was really reluctantly jumping off a cliff. I would read things about it being better to be faithless to others and faithful to self, and therefore trustworthy. And I would fight it. Then I would eventually get to 'alright, I just really hope you guys are right!' Turns out faith and courage are a huge part of the path, especially for us head types :) So instead of following your bliss, maybe follow your dread, it will probably teach you more... Love, Jack #coach #transformation #innerpeace #innerwork #innerwisdom #realfreedom #beyou #beyourself #authenticity #thepath #courage
I've found that I am more productive when I listen to what my actual energy is. Sometimes you are on deadline and maybe you just have to push through. But other times you may benefit from trusting yourself. I keep amazing myself how taking a 30 minute rest when I need it will sometimes lead to heaps of energy and creativity which I could have barely fathomed just before resting. Time to listen to yourself more?
Funny how many things I learnt from my football years :) This one was from my Dad - if someone is giving you a hard time, get closer to them. And so with life. I've noticed that finances are a whole lot easier when you're on top of what's going on even if it's hard to make money. #coach #transformation #innerwork #innerwisdom #realfreedom #innerstrength #innervoice #beyou #beyourself #personaldevelopment
This has been some tough self-awareness for me when it's come to dealing with some of the chronic pain I've had or things I want to write. Where could you benefit from more consistent patient attention? #coach #realfreedom #transformation #beyou #beyourself #innerwisdom #innervoice #innerstrength